Women regardless of size have felt “just fat” or unattractive while having that glance in the mirror.

They’ve also looked in the mirror and thought DAMN I LOOK GOOD.

Do you notice a difference in the way you carry yourself when you think and feel this way? It’s that “I can take over the world” type feeling. Obviously, we can have good days and some tough days.. but this feeling is one of the best feelings of life. Having more good days are what we would all like to achieve.

How do you get to this feeling? By knowing -You are beautiful right now.

What ever makes you feel absolutely, without a shadow of a doubt, beautiful.. you need to attain that on the regular. Often times we settle.. putting our families, friends, and coworkers first.. then we move along to ourselves if there’s time left.

How can you feel beautiful in the now? It’s easy to say “just do” but sometimes we need to put motions into practice. Pick something you love about yourself.. focus on it. Exaggerate it. Girl, you know you can exaggerate. Also… you can gain this feeling by Working out.. it’s scientifically proven over and over that exercise builds endorphins and ups our serotonin levels.. the happy neurotransmitters occurring in our central systems in our body, you can get this confidence boost by doing your hair, putting on your makeup, matching your clothes.. these things are often put last, if ever.. because other people’s wants and needs come first, then we become lazy to put in the effort. You won’t see me buying secondhand clothes. That’s my personal choice. Even between sizes.. there’s new clothes these days that sell for the cost of used ones anyway. Why? Because it doesn’t give me that confidence I’m wanting by wearing someone else’s used clothes. I also don’t wear fake jewelry.. everything I wear is real. Some may say it’s an Italian thing.. I say it’s a self worth thing. When I was young, a woman said “why dress yourself in cheap jewelry, are you not worth decorating yourself with real things?” Well damn. Again, that’s my personal preference, I know it’s not for everyone. If wearing costume jewelry makes you feel like a badass, go on with yourself! Enjoy it!

Scrolling through Facebook, I often see posts saying “girls night out” followed by a ton of selfies.. or “new shirt vibes” and it’s another selfie.. because it puts people on a different level of feeling.. which is confident. We don’t need the validation because we already know. The contrast in saying that.. I’m going to say this because someone listening may need to hear this… throw out anything that interferes with you doing you on the regular. If you have people in your life who constantly bring you down in a non-heathy way.. BYEEEEE. If you have a partner that’s consistently making you feel ashamed or embarrassed about yourself.. audios! A friendship should be more life giving than life taking. If someone is a sponge of your happiness or confidence.. let them go. Not everyone is for everybody. There’s far to many options in this world for anyone to feel like they have to settle. When you know your worth, and feel amazing.. you’ll get that job, you’ll hang out with that crew, you’ll walk differently.. and my gosh- you’ll get that partner who compliments your goals, and lifestyle. I mean, that person who comes along side of you to conquer together.. because you know your worth and can build together. Get rid of anything that makes you second guess yourself.. yes people.. but what about those pants hanging in your closet that makes you feel like shit every time you open your closet. Girl, throw it out.. or donate it if it’s in good condition. A realistic goal outfit, sure.. if it’s motivating you. Anything else.. bye. Make the decision.. hymming and hawing will not to any good.

Montana will hear me say “I don’t like that” or “I don’t like it” then make an abrupt change or decision. Why? Because I’ve spent my time with dissatisfaction. It’s something I won’t settle for. Those jeans will never compliment my booty. They aren’t made for me. It’s not that my body is wrong or mis-shaped. It’s the designer who made their clothes a specific shape. I don’t change my body to fit the clothes.. the clothes gotta change to fit this body. You should feel the same. Fabric does not, and should not, determine our worth, or how we feel about ourselves. Those pants are not paying your bills sis. But the way you feel in them.. that very well could!

I was having a bland feeling day a couple weeks ago.. so I was just soaking in the tub, being zen. My partner walked in the washroom with a bouquet of my favourite flowers. Her thoughtfulness made me feel good. The same way I often brew a coffee for her in the morning because I make my way downstairs first when I do my 5am workouts so it’s ready soon as she comes downstairs. We can appreciate gestures such as these, and make each other feel good. I believe that is healthy..

But at the end of the day- we also need to be this for ourselves. This is also healthy! Otherwise, we become dependent on other people to make us feel good and people are not perfect.

I’m apart of a makeup group that has hundreds of thousands of women in it.. and we boost each other on the daily. Often with captions stating “feeling like shit lately, this is me trying to feel good and feeling myself” or “I’ve been depressed and today I got up and did stuff. feeling good for the first time in awhile” it shows that doing things for ourselves can really improve our moods. Of course the fellow members jump on it and hype each other up. It’s awesome actually. Behind the screen, I really hope they can dig deep and know that they truly are beautiful. More than any compliment can serve them.

Feel beautiful in the now. I always say “I workout because I love my body not because I hate it” how many people would look at a chubby chick in the gym and be like “oh they must not like what they look like” or same with a man “oh he must want to up his sex appeal” I’ve heard it. It’s shallow, and stereotypical. I will say stereotypes exist usually for a reason.. but it’s not up to anyone to assume. Think confidence like Lizzo. She works out, she loves herself.. her confidence has gotten her in the gossip zone. So.. people can call her fat? AND?! she loves herself. If calling her fat makes a person feel better about themselves, it shows how they are as a person. Consider the source. Everyone has something beautiful about them. Regardless of shape, size, or physical attributes. I don’t make friends based on physical.. I definitely won’t judge anyone on their outward, but if their personality makes them ugly.. that person is ugly.. and not for me. it will be a reason we’re not friends. They can go make a friend elsewhere. That’s not rude.. that’s having boundaries! Love your process, level up, love yourself along the way.. when you feel this way… you will achieve your goals, walk with confidence in who you are. and you’ll conquer the world!